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The Jamaica Observer has revealed that a study has shown that men would rather choose an unattractive woman for a long term serious relationship, and would rather have a beautiful woman for a short term fling.
“Feminine Looking” women, who possessed attributes such as a small jawbone and full cheeks, were considered most desirable to men. Due to their high level of estrogen which is credited for their womanly features.
Whereas women with the opposing features were considered more “masculine looking”.
Hundreds of heterosexual men were surveyed.
The men were shown many photos of European and Japanese women, both “feminine” and “masculine” looking.
The guys had to select whether they viewed each woman as more likely a short-term partner for a “fling”, or saw them more as “long term” relationship material.
“Feminine looking” women were deemed most desirable for a short term affair, especially by the surveyed men that were in relationships.
But the more “masculine looking” women were rated highest for long term partners for marriage and raising children.
As perplexing as these results are, previous research has allegedly been done stating that attractive women are more likely to cheat, especially when their husband isn’t that attractive.
So basically most men are distrustful of pretty girls.
This study really resonates with me.
I’m constantly told how gorgeous and beautiful I am, and whenever I tell someone that I’ve never had a boyfriend the same exchange always happens.
They always act astounded and shocked, like it’s so inexplicable that I could have never had a boyfriend despite being so undeniably attractive.
The worst is when they ask “Are guys blind?” because no man I’ve never met has never wanted to date me.
First of all, my problem isn’t attracting men, since I have absolutely no problem doing that.
My problem is that the men that I do attract only see me as a fling, and not as a serious relationship partner.
I also attract a lot of guys in relationships, and like this study showed, guys in relationships really like beautiful partners to cheat on their girlfriends/wives with.
The problem isn’t that beautiful people can’t be trusted, it’s that we live in a society that places beauty as the absolute thing to be coveted, but not to be taken seriously.
Beautiful people should be worshipped, envied, desired, but shouldn’t be thought of as actual people with feelings, thoughts, hopes, and dreams, and should not be respected.
Being beautiful has never done me any favors in terms of attracting a mate, since I’ve perpetually been single my entire life.
Granted I’m only 22 and still holding out hope that I’ll find a guy that does want to date me, and sees me as more than a sex object.
But clearly being gorgeous is both a gift and a curse.
Guys may always want you, but not for the long-term.
Because beautiful people somehow don’t deserved to be loved.
